Failure, the unspoken evil that the society tries its best to avoid. A social stigma, a cause for shame and a black spot on the supposed to be sparkling white fabric of one's "life". Failure, a symbol of incompetency, lack of required level of smartness/intelligence and sluggishness. Failure, an event that doesn't accomplish its intended purpose or in this case, a person that doesn't accomplish his intended purpose.
Failure stands for a hundred other things like this. A hundred other words to remind you how you couldn't make it work, how you 'failed'.
If you google up failure, you will find a picture of a person sitting depressed with his head in his hands often with red or black backgrounds. Apparently, that's what failure does to you, drives you into depression and self loathing, it does indeed. It sends you into a dark corner where nobody is going to come touch you. The only people who will come to see you will be the ones who pity you.
Failure is the taboo that people are ashamed of. Failure is not something you bring upon to yourself on purpose, failure is neither something you can avoid forever. One fails in life innumerable times. One has to. Without failures, what would success mean? Without failures how would we innovate? And without failures, how would we grow?
Failures are often looked down upon in the society, often associated with loads of negativity and often considered best to avoid. But is that really necessary? Are failures that bad? Are failures that harmful? Infact, are they harmful at all? And is it in our best interests to try and to succeed at all times? Yes we must always try to succeed but does that mean we must always avoid failure?
"Failures are the stepping stones to success" they say, and I couldn't agree more. Failures are experiences that you learn from, experiences that hold you back and force you to contemplate on your methods when you would have otherwise preferred to run ahead.
Failures are experiments gone wrong that are just as important as the ones that went right.
Failures are the lessons from the books you didn't read. Failures are your chance to stop, look around and change.
Most of our failures are ignored and considered bad luck. Most of the times, we discourage failures and fail to give the people who failed a second chance owing to the negative conception associated with failure. But its time we change that, its time we seek the wisdom that lies in our failures. Failures are not just a red colour on our report cards, they're proof that we tried. Failures are proof that there was effort. It is these failures that help us be humble. It is these failures that help us understand the meaning of struggles and that help us become stronger.
Must we judge them so negatively? Must people who have failed suffer because they tried and they couldn't make it? Shouldn't they be given another chance?
Shouldn't they be given kudos for making an effort?
Had people judged themselves for their failures, maybe failure wouldn't be so dark after all. Maybe judgements on others failures wouldn't be so harsh and maybe then, when we googled up failure, we would see a picture of someone trying harder.
Had people judged themselves for their failures, failures would be a learning curve, failures would be an experience.
So lets judge ourselves for the moments we've failed, lets analyze and contemplate, and the next time we try it, lets fail better.
